Updated: Sep 14
One of the biggest hurdles of beginning a sober journey is FEAR. Fear is present at almost every corner you turn, which keeps us stuck from moving forward and taking that first step.
Here's the thing, friends: those fears are shared by almost EVERY SINGLE PERSON before they begin their sober journey. The people I have personally mentored & worked with shared them. I experienced them, and the friends I have made in this sober community had them, too. So that's why I am sharing these three common fears that we ALL experience, in hopes that if you are sober curious and are wanting to begin your own sober journey, you can know that you are not alone, and that Hypegirl Healing is here to help guide you along your sober journey!
FEAR NUMBER ONE: "What will I tell my family and friends?"
First and foremost, let me be super clear- IT IS NOBODY'S BUSINESS! You hear me? It is none of anyone's business why you decide to make a change for the better...but, in the event that you want to give an answer to the dreaded above question, try these on for size:
"I'm taking a break right now."
"I have an early/big day tomorrow."
"I'm not feeling well."
"I don't want a hangover."
"I'm exploring my relationship to alcohol."
If we dial this fear back a bit, it's the fear of judgement...that our closest friends and/or family are judging us for not drinking (because, like most of us, we love to drink, so it can cause a double-take when we decline a beverage). But let me flip the switch on you, and remind you of the other side of judgement- inspiration! Ah yes...please let me remind you when this fear creeps in, re-direct the fear and understand that you will be INSPIRING these people that you're closest to, and you'd be surprised who you influence for the better by simply saying "I'm not drinking tonight."
You, my friend, are a badass, and this is a very brave first step!
FEAR NUMBER TWO: "Do I have a problem with alcohol if I quit drinking?"
This is a BIGGIE, because we as a collective society thrive on labels, and what does the label SOBER mean to most folks? Yep, you guessed it; if you are labeled as sober, it means you have a problem with alcohol. Let me be the first to let you in on a lil' secret....you do NOT have to have a problem with alcohol or with drinking in order to become sober. Ahhhhh, how does that feel? Now go ahead and put that weight down.
So here's the other side to that statement: there are PLENTY of reasons for why you might want to quit drinking, and they overlap a bit with the above:
ITS NOBODY'S DAMN BUSINESS!
You just don't want to drink anymore
You have health concerns/taking medication
It causes more harm than it does good
Don't like being hungover
Don't like being under the influence
You want to save money
You think you have a problem and want to fix it
Friends, there's so many reasons why you might want to become sober, and maybe, just maybe, there is a problem there...but if you're not ready to charter that territory, and you're just sick and tired of drinking and its negative effects on your life, then that's reason enough to quit. The point here is this: do not get caught up in labels. Sober, booze-free, alcohol-free, zero proof, retired black out artist, reformed party girl/guy...call it whatever you want...this is your life, your journey, and you make the rules!
FEAR NUMBER THREE: "How will I have any fun?"
Gang, this fear is super real, but PLEASE let me again be the first to let you in on a lil' sober secret...you have no idea what fun is until you get sober.
Listen, I know firsthand just how much fun we all have at the day drinking concerts, especially during the warm months. I know how fun a bar crawl can be, or a party bus that totes you around town all damn day and night...but friends, that is a false sense of fun. I know, I know...I am talking crazy, but as a retired party gal myself, the fun we know of when we're drinking is short-lived, and usually followed by anxiety and hangovers, and THAT IS NO FUN AT ALL! Socially engaging with a clear mind, that has no negative aftermath, is fun times a million! Before I got sober, fun meant drinking, in any shape, form or fashion. Now, fun means waking up early, tackling my day, enjoying the outdoors, hiking, swimming, sunbathing, biking, walking, working out, roadtripping...and more:
tackling projects on your to-do list
exploring your creative passions
enjoying morning coffee
movie dates, meet-ups, brunches, sunrises, sunsets
using money you save from being sober on fun clothes, fun ideas, fun trips, etc.
Life as you know will change, yes, but I promise you, it will change ALL for the better! Fun will be woven into your life in ways you cannot even imagine right now, because booze equals fun, among many other things. Fun as you know it will be redefined and you will amaze yourself with how much you have been missing out on by drinking the days away.
See? Did I hit the nail on the head or what? How many of you read this and were like "OMG yes! These are my exact fears!" We all face them, and so many of us who have become sober know how tough overcoming those fears can be. If you are ready to uncover more about your relationship to alcohol, after learning about these common fears we all share, Hypegirl Healing has introduced The Sober Handbook. This instant digital download is a guide to help you unravel the truths of your drinking, taking you step-by-step at a pace that is comfortable for you. To learn more and to purchase your copy today, click here.
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